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Useful Decompressing Methods - 2

Useful Decompressing Methods - 2

Added 16/1/2013

As we mentioned before how to release your pressure in your day-life, besides the three methods I told you, there are another several helpful ways.

The last point I referred days ago is relying on routines. It can be seen simply. For instance, you can decide what color of clothes to wear daily. And the best solution to reduce the number of such kind of decisions is that you need to make by using routines. If there's something you need to do every day, do it at the same time every day. In fact, President Obama,mentioned using this strategy himself in a recent interview: You'll see I wear only gray or blue suits. I don't want to make decisions about what I'm eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make. You need to focus your decision-making energy. You need to routinize yourself. You can't be going through the day distracted by trivia.

Here the forth one is to take five (or ten) minutes to do something you find interesting. It doesn't matter what it is, so long as it interests you. Recent research shows that interest doesn't just keep you going despite fatigue, it actually replenishes your energy. And then that replenished energy flows into whatever you do next. Keep these two very important points in mind: First, interesting is not the same thing as pleasant, fun, or relaxing (though they are certainly not mutually exclusive.) Taking a lunch break might be relaxing, and if the food is good it will probably be pleasant. But unless you are eating at the new molecular gastronomy restaurant, it probably won't be interesting. So it won't replenish your energy. Second, interesting does not have to mean effortless. The same studies that showed that interest replenished energy showed that it did so even when the interesting task was difficult and required effort.

The sixth is adding where and when to your to-do list. This particular form of planning is a really powerful way to help you achieve any goal. Nearly 200 studies, on everything from diet and exercise to negotiation and time management, have shown that deciding in advance when and where you will complete a task (e.g., "If it is 4pm, then I will return any phone calls I should return today") can double or triple your chances of actually doing it.

The last but not least is seeing your work in terms of progress, not perfection. We all approach the goals we pursue with one of two mindsets: what I call the Be-Good mindset, where the focus is on proving that you have a lot of ability and that you already know what you're doing, and the Get-Better mindset, where the focus is on developing your ability and learning new skills. You can think of it as the difference between wanting to show that you are smart versus wanting to get smarter. A Get-Better mindset leads instead to self-comparison and a concern with making progress — how well are you doing today, compared with how you did yesterday, last month, or last year? When you think about what you are doing in terms of learning and improving, accepting that you may make some mistakes along the way and you stay motivated despite the setbacks that might occur.

Psychologically, it's often not whether we've reached our goal, but the rate at which we are closing the gap between where we are now and where we want to end up that determines how we feel. It can be enormously helpful to take a moment and reflect on what you've accomplished so far before turning your attention to the challenges that remain ahead.


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